我的爸爸+我的妈妈 My Father My Mother
This is a really sweet set of 2 books about fathers and mothers.
The whole book 我的妈妈 only has the words 妈妈, and here we really see the illustrations shine. There’s something that all of us can relate to!
Throughout the little girl’s life,
from baby days
she calls for mama.
We paused the longest at the scene where the daughter was with her mama on the hospital bed, attached to a heart monitor with a drip. My eldest asked why would the sick mama be smiling when her daughter visited? Wouldn’t she be sad if she’s suffering？I replied that to have one’s child visit and show care brings comfort and joys even in seasons of sickness, suffering and pain.
We also stopped for a long while at the page where the heart activity on the monitor gradually changed to a flat line, and the numbers on the monitor showed 00, the daughter held her mum’s hand to her cheek and tears flowed.
I also shared with the boys stories of caring for people at the final days of their lives and witnessing deathbed moments, in my years working as a nurse in the wards.
We talk about the frailty of life, about 生老病死.
We learn to cherish each other, and live each day as if it were our last.
In the book about fathers, there’s a running narrative of 4 fathers teaching their children different things like cycling, skipping stones, flying a kite and swimming. It was heartwarming because these are the things we do with our kids now.
Truth be told, many of us in Asian families may not have the best and trusted relationships with our parents.
Nevertheless, we can always make the most of it and let that life experience guide us to be better parents to our own offspring! There is hope and when we know better, we can do better!
Recommended for ages: 2 and up
Translated from: Korean