Recommended for Ages: 2-6
Language: Simplified Chinese
Author: [美]科尼莉亚·莫德·斯佩尔曼 Cornelia Spelman
Translated from: English
Translated by: 于水
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(Update: Currently sold out; on backorder) Have you talked about body safety with your child? This book explains that a child's body is his or her own; that it is all right for them to decline a friendly hug or kiss, even from someone they love; and that they can still be friends even if they don't want a hug now. . . This book has been most helpful in helping my toddler understand the limits of how she should be touched. She is now aware of what private parts are, and how these parts must never be touched by anyone except by us or the doctor when she needs help. . . It's never too early to talk to your child about important issues like this, and this is a great book to begin with. The books pictured above are also available from @mystorytreasury Thank you My Story Treasury for giving followers of @sgmontessorimoms 10% discount . Enter "sgmontessorimoms" at checkout. . . #mandarinbooks #sgparents #sgmontessorimoms
I like how the book simplifies the topic so that young children can understand how they can apply body boundaries practically in real life. It also helps me as a parent better understand the topic as well, and therefore can support my child in real life scenarios where relevant.
I like the content of the story that helps young children understand that the body is his/hers and that they need not oblige to being physically close to others if he/she does not feel like it. A great book for 4-year-olds who are learning about body ownership. It also includes a couple of pages about reminding the child to show affection to his/her loved ones. Would be even better if the book were bilingual though.
If this book would be bilingual, it'd be perfect!! Will be on the lookout for more awesome bilingual books for sure! This is such an important topic to talk with our young kids. Thanks for sharing snippets of the book, appreciate you SK!
Personally I find body safety something extremely important, especially in a society where children are exposed to technology earlier and earlier, and parents find it challenging to monitor all content / people they encounter online. The book is also useful in opening this conversation with adults around my child, and for us to be able to use this book to explain why for example, consent is important even for children, and if they ask you to stop tickling / disturbing them, you have to respect their body autonomy. It is something that many adults, including my own peers, may not realise is important.
One thing I thought could be better about this book, which was published in 1998 after all (a good two decades ago!) is that it aready assumes and teaches children to assume that certain adults are "safe" by virtue of who they are. This includes doctors and their own parents. For myself I would usually add the comment that even for doctors and "trusted adults", the child should still feel comfortable to ask them to stop / put on gloves / ask for other adults to be present.
I really love this aspect that you brought up, about 'trusted adults'. Appreciate how you not only read the book with your child, but are intentional in passing on values and equipping them to be wise in our eventual absence as well. Thank you Kai Yun so much for your in-depth sharing!
I think this is a great introductory book on body safety, especially for kids from 3-4yo (or as soon as they're able to grasp the concept) - I like how the book contains phrases like 你的身体是自己的 "Your body belongs to you!" and teaches children about private parts, what are appropriate touches, how to say no and what to do when you're feeling uncomfortable. It's probably one of those topics that some parents may avoid, but is really crucial especially as the younger generations are far more evolved than we used to be. Basic knowledge helps to protect them!
It’s never too early to start introducing body awareness to our children and this book helped me to do so with pictures.